The Truth About Your Wedding Day (my heart & sanity savers)
Hi sweet friends! I don't know about you, but I hope you are loving this new Blog Series as much as I am so far. Truths, Secrets & Encouragement on: Engagement, Weddings & Singleness". And all the ladies said HEYYYYY! HALLELUJER! If you're just joining us, I just recently got married (today is actually our 2 Month Anniversary) and looking back on the beautiful seasons that led us to this newlywed season- I simply could not move forward without sharing some truths that saved my heart, secrets that saved my budget and some simple yet powerful encouragement for you no matter WHERE you fall between Singleness, Engaged or Married!
Last week I spilled my heart & secrets about the amazing Engaged Series- and trust me, you'll want to be apart of that chat- check it out HERE! And this week, it's all about the BIG DAY!!!
It's a few weeks, or even a few days before your Wedding Day is actually here and you finally realize... this thing is actually happening! All of the planning, Vendor calling, attention on your and your fiancé, celebrations and dreaming- it's all about to come together and create the Day you've always dreamed out.
And trust me, about 2 weeks before... and then 5 days before... and then 3, I was trying as much as I could to glean from everyone's advice about entering this new season of Marriage and their tips on what to do on my Wedding Day.
And if you're an engaged gal or recently married, you know, you don't have to ASK for this advice. People give it to you freely, all the time, like. constantly. And to be honest- I was so appreciative, really. I loved getting advice. To know that someone cared enough to share their hearts and experiences with me for Ry and I, was really special.
But about 2 days before the Big Day, I just knew. It was time to tune in to truly the only important voice. The voice that was not only going to give me advice and speak encouragement to me- but every single thing He would say would be truth. Not opinion, not emotion- truth. I had to do it. I had to take some time, and let myself focus in on ONE voice. The Lord's.
Girlfriend, you've just been through one of the most FUN seasons of your life. For Ry and I- or maybe just me, he was pretty stoked to just get to the Married part ha!- I absolutely loved being engaged. And now, the time has come.
So from one bride to another. From my crazy, beautiful, cherished journey to yours. From my heart to yours friend. I would love to share with you some truths that the Lord gave me in the days leading up to our Wedding Day, secrets that seriously saved my sanity and encouragement to simply BE on your Big Day. It's your Day. Don't miss this.
Truths, Secrets and Encouragement for YOUR Wedding Day:
[Secret]: What hasn't been done yet- let it go.
The night before our Rehearsal Day, Ryan and I were up until midnight putting together our Wedding Advice Board. Taking apart a frame, hot gluing string, cutting out paper. Something I had really wanted to do, but for some reason it just wasn't getting done... until 10pm the night before Rehearsal Day. And guess what?! It added unneeded stress, lack of sleep, and didn't even get photographed! To be honest, I was happy that we had completed my long awaited dreamy board! I loved it, but was it worth it? Probably not.
There will be things that you realize didn't get done- but you REALLY want them to. But trust me, friend, trust me. Any added stress- is. not. worth. it. There is too much beauty to be experienced, too much time to be cherished and so many other things worth your emotions. So let the Marriage Advice Board go, release control on the detail you missed. And enjoy what's right in front of you.
2. [ Truth ]: You were born for this Day.
A few days before our Wedding Day, in the stillness of our new little home. I sat alone at our Dining Room table. Breeze flowing in through the windows. Silence. I was finishing my vows to Ryan, in that tiny little brown book. And in the stillness, the Lord spoke to my heart and I knew. I was ready to be a Wife.
I didn't know everything I needed to know, I didn't have it all together (I'm sure of it!)... but none of that mattered. Because the truth was, God had done a faithful work in Ryan and I as individuals and as a couple leading up to our Big Day. He had been the center of our hearts, the focus of our love and honestly the ONE that held us together when it seemed too hard. God had approved of us. He had prepared our hearts and drawn us to this place. If He has done the same for you friend, and you would know deep down inside- then let me relieve you. You were born for this Day. You were born to be a Bride. And you are READY to be a Wife.
3. [ Secret ]: Take deep breaths & laugh at the "thing that will go wrong"
Everyone always told me that there would be something that go wrong on our Wedding Day. But me and the Lord had already talked about that not being rain ;) ha! kidding... kinda. And looking back, I can't really identify what that one thing was. But what I can clearly remember is that there were many moments that tried their hardest to steal my attention and happiness and focus on controlling and stressing instead.
The biggest piece of advice I ever received, was to laugh at the "things that will go wrong". Whatever it will be on your day, whether its not enough greenery in your Florist Order (one of mine!), rain or whatever. Laugh it off. Enjoy the view as your watch everything coming together, hug on your momma a little extra tightly the morning of, enjoy getting dolled up for your Big Day and cry. a lot. ;) happy tears of course.
Girl, NOTHING is going to stop you and your hubby from becoming One. God ordained this Day. And no matter what the enemy might try to tell you, it is a BEAUTIFUL day. Every sing thing considered. So take deep breaths, take it all in, and keep whispering to yourself- this is our Day.
4. [ Truth & Encouragement ]: Say hello.
Your Wedding Day will be uniquely yours: full of so many beautiful and special emotions to experience, fun details and filled with the most important thing- people who love and cherish you.
Embrace your day, laugh, dance your craziest, ACTUALLY EAT YOUR CAKE, wave to your guests when you reach the end of the isle (like I did haha!)- but don't forget at some point to stop and walk around, and hug every single person who came to celebrate you.
The people who helped mold you into who you are, who loved you for years and who you couldn't imagine this Day without. They are what make this Day extra special. And you will seriously cherish those few moments you get to chat and hug every single one of your guests.
These truths, secrets and encouragements will be ones I hold dear to my heart and share with my daughter one day. What did you think of them? Did you receive any truths and secrets that helped you GREATLY on your Big Day? And if your Big Day is around the corner- which ones did you love the most?
I'd love to chat with you more- tell me your thoughts in the Blog Comments BELOW! xo
xoxo,
Mrs. Lanissa Spoon ;)
